comedy works

The Mic, The Miracle, and Me

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comedy works

I was sitting in my virtual zoom speaking class when I shared the story of my most recent miracle.

It started when I stumbled across a Facecrack post from comedian Janae Burris. She was offering a class for the Comedy Curious. Something in me lit up. What a perfect way to honor this new chapter—my youngest heading off into the world as an adult, and me reclaiming parts of myself that have been quietly waiting their turn.

Before committing, I wanted to feel her energy in person. So, I showed up at Comedy Works in Denver for a New Talent Night, imagining a cozy group swapping stories and seeing if they got laughs.

I’ve never been to a comedy club before—or at least, not that I can remember. I arrived early, around 6:00 PM for a 7:30 show, and put my name on the list with a big, fat N next to it. N for newbie. That’s when Chris the bartender kindly let me in on how it all works. Two minutes. That’s all you get. If you get picked off the standby list.

The groggy man at the ticket counter told me I wouldn’t get picked—I didn’t sign up online, and it was my first time. The comedians in the lobby, clearly local legends, echoed the same sentiment: “No way you’re getting a set tonight.” And I thought—What’s a set, anyway?

Still, I put my name down. I had a couple stories I thought were funny (or at least funny-adjacent). Somehow, by the grace of God or comedy angels, I got picked. I was going on stage.

I knew nothing about punchlines, timing, or delivery. I just wanted to talk to Janae Burris about her class. And now here I was—on stage—wondering if people would laugh at me or with me or anything in between.

Right before I walked on, I heard my therapist’s voice in my head:
“Helene, stop caring what people think. Don’t take it personally. Some people will love you, some people won’t. And it can change week to week.”

OK, guru. Got it.

The lights were bright. I stepped up and mumbled something about therapists who tell you don’t care what others think and speaking coaches who say never turn down stagetime. Just as I was about to launch into a story about not landing the job I’d always wanted—the mic dropped. Time was up.

Already?

But here’s what matters: I showed up. And when you show up for life—really show up—miracles do happen.

I may not walk on water, but I can hold a mic and speak the whispers of my heart.

Are you ready for miracles? Let’s talk.

Be Brilliant! Be You!

Helene Rose

Helene Rose guides you to your brilliance, into your heart, and into the Heart of All That Is. Join the Be Brilliant Network community to practice shining from within. Listen to the podcast for your Daily Energy Alignment. Schedule your Brilliance Coaching session.

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I love me.

Self-love is the healing balm for heartache.

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At 24 years old, I was young and hopeful; hopeful that my marriage would be long lasting and loving; hopeful that I would be cherished, always. By age 30, I was alone with two babies, overwhelmed and exhausted from full-time single parenting.

This wasn’t how life was supposed to be. This isn’t what I wanted for my life. I did some inner healing work and was encouraged by a mentor to open my heart again. Because I love love, I did.

I opened my heart again, and again, and again. Close to two decades and many relationships later, I wonder how I could have saved myself the heartache. None of these men wanted to do the work of the relationship. None of them cherished and loved me like I wanted. None of them showed up for me the way that I wanted and needed. The fact is, I was the one who wasn’t showing up the way I needed to for myself. To each of them I now say, thank you for showing me what I needed to heal.

Love is a choice.

The first choice to make is to love yourself. Loving yourself is a daily practice. It’s knowing who you are beyond the physical reality. Who are you at your essence? Your spirit? Your energy. Self-love is making choices that resonate with your heart, that make you leap for joy and self-love is not ignoring the whispers that say: Walk away. Make a different choice. This relationship will not bring you joy. `

I ignored the whispers that said: Don’t walk down the aisle. Don’t move in with this man. Be alone, don’t tag along with a man who does not know your value. Who will use you and abuse you. These men claim that they did not want to end the relationship. They wanted me. After all, I’m kind, loving, vibrant, and compassionate. They wanted it all. They wanted me to be there waiting for them while they went off and did whatever they wanted, without communicating and without loving compassion.

Several months ago, I ended a two month dating experience with a text (phone call would have been better, I know) as I walked into the neighborhood pool. Within 5 minutes of sitting in the hot tub after I ended the courtship, a new man approached me and started a conversation.

As he asked me out, I laughed at the synchronicities of the Universe. This was my confirmation. You are loving yourself. You are choosing yourself. You are following your heart. 

This is where we are all meant to be.

When my second long term commitment was dying a slow death, I had to finally end it after months of no communication. He didn’t want to get help. He wanted to walk away and blamed me. Love would say: I need some time away, but I love you. I will be back after I sort myself out. Instead it was: You are too (fill in the blank.) Blame. Blame. Blame.

Love is a choice.

The second aspect in choosing Love is to commit to healing yourself. I believe that we enter into relationships in order to find the healing we need to evolve. The challenges we face help us transform our pain into love. We heal, transform, and hold more light. Each of these relationships over the last two decades had their own purpose in my life. Each of these relationships brought me closer to knowing my essence, my spirit, my energy. I know more about myself because of these relationships. 

In my 20s, I certainly did not think this way. I thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t make the relationship work. I couldn’t make the relationship work because I couldn’t change him. I couldn’t make him want to do the work of the relationship. I couldn’t make him want to get the help we needed to find peace. It turns out, there is nothing wrong with me. I simply had the courage to walk away when a relationship was not transforming into holy love.

When you commit to healing yourself, there is no one to blame, criticize or judge. I fully accept every experience that comes my way as an opportunity to learn more about myself.

I would rather be single and in love with myself, fully present for my own life experiences and evolution than to be in a relationship that won’t grow. Relationships need healthy soil, water, sunlight, and sometimes fertilizer to evolve to the next level. 

Love is a choice.

Finally, choosing love means walking in deep faith. You will make choices that are scary and unknown. It can feel safer to stay in a relationship that isn’t working because it’s familiar. The choice to leave a relationship brings up questions like how will I support myself? What will people think?

Walking in faith means that the guiding light is our own inspired and heart-centered knowing. Walking in faith, we find strength in our higher power. We trust that the path will only unfold for our highest good.

A client once told me that she was going to stay in a relationship for financial reasons. That’s her choice to make, yet I wonder, what is the real cost of staying when you know that the relationship is dead and there is no hope of saving it? Does it serve your spirit essence? Does it energize you and enliven you to be in the relationship for financial reasons? Consider taking a leap of faith and trust that the Universe knows exactly what you want and need.

My mission is to empower your transformation, inspire you to remove the blocks to your brilliance, and illuminate the wisdom that already exists in your heart so your life radiates with joy, peace, and prosperity. Let’s talk.

Be Brilliant!

Helene Rose

Helene Rose guides you to your brilliance, into your heart, and into the Heart of All That Is. Join the Be Brilliant Network community to practice shining from within. Listen to the podcast for your Daily Energy Alignment. Schedule your Brilliance Coaching session.


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drop resistance, grow brighter

The Resistance You Hold is Blocking Your Brilliance

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Our physical body, mind, and emotions hold energy. This holding of energy is experienced as resistance. Like a drain that won’t flow water, our energy can be blocked too. We can be holding onto all kinds of crap from this lifetime or others, that we can release to create more space within us for our light to shine.

We want to release this resistance so we can hold more light within us. When we hold more light within us, our inner power is strengthened. We attract and magnetize. We become true creators of our own reality.

I’ve been working on releasing my physical, mental, and emotional resistance on a conscious healing path since 2009. As long as we are in human form, we will always have something to release. But once we make the inner commitment to releasing the resistance we hold, the universe will help us out.

It might not be easy because the universe will give you what you need in order to heal. It can be uncomfortable as you are faced with your biggest fears. You will be challenged and maybe even pummeled. When we move with the flow instead of against it, we find ease. Not easy. Definitely not easy. We find ease. We don’t fight back, we soften and let life teach us.

Many lessons have been brought my way and the one that is apparent now is: knowing my feelings and communicating them without fear. Uncomfortable feelings are difficult for me to communicate, yet important to do because when we speak our truth, we give ourselves an empowerment. Literally, energy comes rushing back in.

For many years, I ignored my own feelings out of fear and I suffered because of it. Now, I teach folks how to nurture the relationship with the Self; to pay attention to inspired thoughts and deep feelings which are the lampposts in living this life. When we ignore inspired thoughts and deep feelings, our light dims. When we pay attention, we shine brighter. In shining brighter, we become conscious creators of our reality.

I can help you drop resistance, find ease, transform, and radiate your light into the world. Planet Earth needs your light now more than you know. Let’s talk.

Keep shining,

Helene Rose

Helene Rose guides you to your brilliance, into your heart, and into the Heart of All That Is. Join the Be Brilliant Network community to practice shining from within. Listen to the podcast for your Daily Energy Alignment. Schedule your Brilliance Coaching session.


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keep your vibes high

When the World is Spiraling, Keep Your Own Vibes High

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When I look at the headlines, I’m in disbelief as many of you probably are. I don’t see news of positivity, excitement or joy. I see news of violence, injustice, and pain. I acknowledge that what is being reported is occurring and do what I can from where I am.

With the understanding that every human is connected to every other human and with the awareness that I am in charge of the energy that I emit into the world, I do what I know how to do. I know how to send love energy to those in need and I know how to keep my own vibes high. If everyone knew this, what would be possible in our world? If everyone knew the power of Love, how could the world change in a holy instant?

If you are keeping your own vibes high, you are joyful and positive. If you are not keeping your own vibes high, you are miserable, complaining, criticizing, or judging – perpetuating hate.

How can you let what is happening in the world occur while at the same time be happy? Your miserableness will do absolutely nothing to change what is occurring, so why be miserable? In fact, your miserableness will make it worse. The truth is, right now, if you are reading this, chances are you have a comfortable home, people in your life who love you, and interesting things to do in your own life. That’s a gift. With appreciation for the gift of your life, choose joy.

How to keep your vibes high:

  • Any kind of movement: dance, yoga, sports, or other movement practices.
  • Time in nature: walk in the woods, plant a flower, sit in the grass.
  • Acknowledge fear and talk to it. Say: I see you fear and I release you. I choose love.
  • Bodywork / Energy work: massage, acupuncture, rolfing, reiki, jin shin jyutsu.
  • Listen to your own thoughts and feelings. Choose thoughts that bring peace. Release thoughts that do not.
  • Based on inspired thoughts and deep feelings, follow your own impulses. Learn this.
  • Do not ever complain, judge, or criticize anyone or anything. Instead, notice.
  • Be with people who uplift you. If you don’t have them, find them.
  • Meditation, prayer, or self-reflection. everyday. Multiple times a day.
  • Book a session with your Brilliance Coach, me! I will guide you to discovering the joy within yourself and getting the life that you want.

In closing, if we want to see the change, we have to be the change. Everything you think, say, and do affects everyone else. You have the power to move mountains. Claim it!

Keep shining,

Helene Rose

Helene Rose guides you to your brilliance, into your heart, and into the Heart of All That Is. Join the Be Brilliant Network community to practice shining from within. Listen to the podcast for your Daily Energy Alignment.


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