Reflecting on life experience, I realize that I usually get what I want. I’ve also noticed that when I get what I want it’s usually immediately after saying no to something else. There are just a few examples.
I had accepted a long term sub teaching position. They added more and more responsibility to my plate and no support for accomplishing the tasks at hand. I called the principal after the first day and told him that I had changed my mind. I wasn’t going to fulfill the position. That same day, I applied for another position, interviewed the next day, accepted the job and stayed there for 4 years! If I hadn’t said no to the first position, I would not have gotten the job I really wanted!
Another time, I was dating a man and was torn about staying together. I tuned inward and decided that we were not quite a match. So I broke up with him. Within 5 minutes (literally!), I met another man who asked me out on a date. That was confirmation for me!
The universe is telling me: when you honor yourself, you get what you want. When you claim your worth, you get what you want. Don’t settle, and you will get what you want.
This is why I haven’t stayed in a job or in a relationship if it’s not working out. I’ve tried to make them all work. I could have stayed in most of my previous relationships. I could have settled, but I’m on a mission to transform, heal, expand, and know my divinity.
What about the times I don’t get what I want? I really wanted to be a school leader. Interview after interview, I was rejected. After some time, I realized that it’s not in the flow for me. It’s not for my highest good right now. It’s not falling into my lap. I’ve expended enough energy at this. Why am I not getting the job that I want? Self-reflect, self-reflect, self-reflect.
My lifestyle goals are in conflict with the position. After all, school leaders work around the clock. Nights, weekends. They attend every school event and have almost no time for anything else. Do I really want that? In addition, I know the universe is always looking out for me and has my back. Something better is coming.
What are you ready to say no to? Tell me about it in a discovery call. It’s your time to shine!
Keep shining,
Helene Rose
Helene Rose guides you to your brilliance, into your heart, and into the Heart of All That Is. Join the Be Brilliant Network community to practice shining from within. Listen to the podcast for your Daily Energy Alignment.
One of my biggest struggles is feeling like I belong on planet Earth. It probably started in elementary school when I was bullied by kids who didn’t like themselves very much. It could have been when I was told that I was too sensitive or emotional. It could have been when I was taught that I was not enough. Not good enough. Not smart enough. Not pretty enough. Not skinny enough. Not listening to directions enough. All the not enough’s come flooding back to me and I hope and pray that I have not perpetuated the not enough culture to my own children or students.
This is a picture of me, happy and shining, before the reality of being human set in. I think this caption sums it up perfectly. Sometimes I’m an angel. Only sometimes. Sometimes when I listen. Sometimes when I look pretty. Sometimes when I follow the directions. Sometimes if I prove I’m enough.
Are you part of the not enough culture? The not enough culture makes us want to escape the reality of being human. We do that in all the ways that are available to us with distraction and numbing. Take your pick! But, there is another way.
The other way is not easy. You cannot be distracted or numb out. You may lose relationships that you thought would be forever. You may think you are going crazy or others may think you are losing it. But, I assure you, you will be more real and authentic than ever before. Most folks just won’t be able to handle your authenticity. It can be a lonely path, but it doesn’t have to be.
This is why I’m creating a community of folks who are choosing to do the work of shining from within. We are nurturing the inner flame that shines bright into the world to create peace, prosperity, abundance, and freedom for everyone. We can be free of the limits that we put on our own self and limits that others try to impose upon us. It takes courage to be the you that is you that is you. But, it’s possible.
Every single human of this Earth family is worthy of living a life that is abundantly, divinely, uniquely their own. We all belong. You are enough simply because you are breathing.
Keep shining,
Helene Rose
Helene Rose guides you to your brilliance, into your heart, and into the Heart of All That Is. Join the Be Brilliant Network community to practice shining from within. Listen to the podcast for your Daily Energy Alignment.
I spent years proving to others that I was worthy of a position as a school leader. I did what every leader suggested that I do. I received the degree and the license. I stepped up as a leader of teachers in my building. I took the extra trainings that were offered and stayed late designing the best lessons so I would be recognized. I observed great leadership and not so great leadership. All because I was determined to land the next step on my career path.
Then, one day, after what I perceived as positive interview vibes, the position was given to someone who did none of those things. This person did not even have the minimum qualifications. They did not prove that they were worthy of the esteemed position that I so desperately wanted. I spent weeks and months trying to understand what went wrong.
Until I came to the realization that I never needed to prove anything. I am already worthy. I am already sufficiently trained and prepared for the position. I can do it. And I can do it well. That’s not the question.
The question is twofold. First, do I know my own worth? Nobody outside of me can validate my worth. Whether they see me or don’t see me is not important. The question is: do I see me? Do I validate myself? Do I know my own value and worth? Am I worthy simply because I Am? Yes. And so you are you. Because you are alive on planet Earth, you belong to the Earth. You have value and purpose. You are worthy because you are breathing.
The second question is: am I aligned with my purpose for being? Are my goals aligned with my values, aligned with my passion, aligned with my purpose? When I know my purpose, my values, and my passion, I can truly create the life that I am meant to live. We are all meant to create a life aligned with our Highest Self, fulfilling our mission on planet Earth. I can help you with that. Check out my coaching programs for educators, leaders, and anyone ready to unlock their full potential and achieve their highest levels of prosperity and fulfillment.
When we align with purpose, we know our worth and contribute in meaningful ways.
Keep shining,
Helene Rose
Helene Rose guides you to your brilliance, into your heart, and into the Heart of All That Is. Join the community to practice shining from within.